Learning To Be Alone - Without Getting Lonely
Hello lovely readers, I'm sure you have all heard the saying "February is the month of love". With the month slowly drawing to a close we thought it would be a great time to introduce our new "blog series". As you see can by the title our series will be focusing on "self love". What sparked this idea, was when a brand AdoreMe contacted us about a collaboration on the topic of "self love". We totally fell inlove the idea, but then it hit us, why should February be the only month of love? That's when I came up with the brilliant proposal to make a series, because every month should be filled with self love, every month we should feel free to pamper ourselves and just enjoy the person we are becoming.
the|NATIVES believe that in order to truly love others you need to learn to love yourself. Just like love for others comes in different shapes and sizes so does "self love". The goal for this series is to showcase the various ways in which one can love themselves. So each month we will be doing a post on Self love. To make it more exciting we will be asking other amazing bloggers to collaborate with us! So keep reading each month to find out more.
With all that said I will be kicking off this series. I am far from perfect, and by no means love myself everyday (self love is one hella of a journey).
Come to think of it my journey, of truly discovering what self love meant, began when I moved to the US of A in July '016. The move was something I had wanted to do before I can remember and the opportunity to live out a life long dream made me extremely happy. I think it was the best gift I could have given myself. Not to say that I didn't get a lot of help and encouragement from those around me, but at the end of the day I was the one who bordered that flight and began the adventure of a lifetime.
In the past 7 months, I have truly realised just how strong, brave and resilient I am. I have learned that I can be alone without being lonely. Although I haven't dated a lot I was always super reliant on having friends in order to be entertained and kept busy. However, these few months have been a major turning point for me. I have begun to realise the importance of being alone. That doesn't mean simply sitting at home watching series but going out and about alone. Taking yourself out for coffee, or a movie, or to lunch. Doing something you would with others by yourself. Mind you it's not all glits and glamour. Admittedly the first few times the idea of having coffee alone in a cute cafe by myself with nothing but my thoughts to entertain me was daunting, but now I find solace in the idea. I enjoy the quiet moments I have alone in the car jamming to my favorite song, or walking around the town exploring spots I didn't know existed. I no longer feel embarrassed to say I need time alone or I am going away for the weekend by myself. The moment I realised that I could spend a day alone without getting bored but feeling content, was the moment I realised "hey, perhaps this is what "self love feels like" .
Self love doesn't have to be an extravagant act. It can be attained in the small things and it can begin with tiny baby steps. My challenge to you is this: the next time somebody cancels plans with you, don't sit at home and sulk! Go out and do something fun!
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Vimbai and Lindi are two best friends who have always had a desire for new beginnings. Having just finished Matric, they decided it was the perfect time to chase their passions. Together they decided to venture out into the blogging industry.